Dating Safety Checklist — Living Alone

Dating is exciting, but when you live alone, extra precautions matter. Complete these 16 items to date safely and confidently.

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Before Meeting

Tell a trusted friend who you are meeting, where, and whenCritical
Meet in a public place for the first several datesCritical
Arrange your own transportation — do not rely on your date for a rideCritical
Charge your phone fully before leavingImportant
Set up a timed ImAlive check-in for the eveningCritical

During the Date

Do not share your home address until you trust the personCritical
Watch your drink at all times — never leave it unattendedCritical
Trust your instincts — leave if something feels wrongCritical
Have a code word with a friend to signal you need help via textImportant
Limit alcohol consumption to stay aware and in controlImportant

After the Date

Text your friend when you have arrived home safelyCritical
Lock your doors immediately when you get homeCritical
If the person made you uncomfortable, document specific detailsImportant

Online Safety

Do a reverse image search on profile photos before meetingImportant
Video call before meeting in person for the first timeImportant
Never send money or share financial information with someone you have not metCritical

Frequently Asked Questions

Why is dating riskier when you live alone?

When you live alone, no one notices if you do not come home. There is no roommate waiting up, no one to call if your date goes wrong. That is why telling a friend your plans and setting up an ImAlive check-in are essential — they create the safety net that living alone does not provide.

When is it safe to share my home address with someone I am dating?

There is no fixed timeline, but wait until you have met in person several times, feel comfortable, and have verified their identity. When you live alone, your address is especially sensitive information.

What should I do if a date makes me feel unsafe?

Leave immediately. You do not owe anyone an explanation. Go to a public area, call your trusted friend, or call 911 if you feel threatened. Text your code word if you need your friend to call you with an excuse to leave.

How do I verify someone's identity before meeting them from a dating app?

Do a reverse image search on their profile photos, check if they have consistent social media profiles, and suggest a video call before meeting in person. Be cautious of anyone who avoids video calls or refuses to share basic verifiable information about themselves.

What is a code word system and how do I set one up?

A code word system is a pre-arranged signal between you and a trusted friend. Choose a specific word, phrase, or emoji that means 'I need help.' When your friend receives it via text, they immediately call you with a fabricated excuse for you to leave, such as a family emergency. Agree on the code word and the response plan before your date.

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